What Would You Think About A 19 And 20 Year Old Getting Married?
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always remember: “no marriage before sex”
I don’t care what people do with their lives as long as they’re not hurting anyone.
Why do you care what others will think? Every finger they point at you they got four more pointing back at them. Just live your life how you want, and do the best you can.
Good luck and congrats sweetie.
Personally? I think it’s stupid. You are 19. You haven’t even expierenced real life. Why would you want to settle down know when you really don’t even know who you are and what you want out of life? The odds are against you. You will just end up in a bitter divorce in a year or so. If you love each other then you can wait until you are finish with school and be able to support YOURSELF! Marriage is a serious step. It isn’t something you can just give up on if you don’t like it. Being best friends for 7 years during your teen years is different when you get to know someone when you are older in your 20’s. Your life goals may change. He may change. I feel that way for anyone who gets married under 25.
My sister was married at 18 (3mths before her 19th bday).
Her boyfriend was going to bootcamp and they had to be married so she’d be on his benefits right away. She was a mom and a wife when she was 19!
I say if you are ready to be married (really ready and not just caught up in the moment) go for it!
It worked for my sister. This coming Oct. they will celebrate their 8th wedding anniversary!
It would depend on the couple. I don’t know you, so for all I know you could be very mature or you could be very immature.
Generally though, I would think you are too young to get married, based on how I was at that age. I was with the guy I will marry this Sept., but I don’t think we should have gotten married at that point. We just moved in together and saw how it went! (which was good!)
I honestly do not think it’s a good idea to get married right away. Date him and get to know him. There is still so much you need to know about him. Yes, you’ve been friends for 7 years but only dating for 11 months. Wait! You’re also young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Marriage is a big thing and shiould not be taken lightly.
That is totally my opinion.
Age is but a number. It depends on the situation and how much love is there and the maturity level of the person involved. Judging from afar, it sounds like you two are very level-headed and responsible, you know each other well, and decided that you really love each other before deciding to take the plunge. To wait til he’s done with school, to me, shows maturity and responsibility, unlike a certain 13-year-old on here who wants to rush into marriage before she can even begin to fathom the immense responsibilities it takes to be a wife and mother.
Congrats!
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They’e too young. They should go out and experience the world first, because, at 19 and 20, you don;t really know what you want. You might think you do, but chances are that will change in the next few years.
Besides, you haven’t even been dating for that long. What’s wrong with enjoying just dating for a while?
My bst friend thought she was going to get married at 19. Now she’s 21 and single.
Wait a few years. If it’s meant to happen, then it will happen then. But if you do it now and find out a few years don the line that this wasn’t the right thing to do, you’ll find yourself in the middle of a messy divorce.
I think its totally acceptable.! if me and my boyfriend were ready and able i would marry him right now. its how you feel dont listen to anyone else. follow your heart go for it girlfriend
I was married at 18 to someone I’d known for about a year. And we were engaged for 6 months of that year. It was the best thing that ever happened to me, and almost 12 years later, I still can’t imagine life without him. He’s my best friend.
My opinion? Go for it.
I see nothing wrong with getting married at that age, it worked for me. We had been dating for 2 years when we decided to get married. It has been 17 years now!
Congratulations and good luck.
I’m in the same situation I’ll be 19 … except he’ll be 21! We’re gonna get married september of next year!
I think if you love him dearly and want to spend your lives together… do it!
I can’t wait to get married! I don’t care that I’m young. That doesn’t have to be a factor. If you want to make it work… it won’t be a fail!
Just so long as you take those better of for worse words seriously! Cause it might suck at times since you were so young… but if you think it’s worth it and you’re excited… do it!
well im 19 and my husband is 22 we will be married a year in june! we were friends for 4 years and he was in the army and in iraq for 16 months and when he got home i was there and he proposed to me 3 months later. ive never been happier. and don’t listen to people when they try to say your too young or you need to experience life and grow up, its annoying i love my husband and never regret being married he is my best friend and we love being around each other. good luck!
Okay, you asked for our opinions, not our advice. So my opinion when I hear of a 19 and 20-year-old getting married is that they are too young and it will never last. That is my opinion.
The reason I think that is because I think of the person I was when I was 19 and 20, and I know how much i’ve changed. The people I dated then weren’t anything like the person i’ve become today. I met my now husband when I was 25 and we got married when I was 28. I am SO glad I waited.
But that’s just me and my opinion. People in the 50’s used to get married right out of high school and stay married until they died. So it works for some people.
I wouldn’t rush to get married. You can have a promise ring for now but just wait until you two have lived together for a while and had to deal with grown up reality (mortgage, bills, etc.) before you get engaged.
You wanted some heartfelt honesty, so here you go:
I’ve been 19 and 20. I loved the person I was with, but neither of us were done growing. At this age you have so much to learn about life, the world, relationships and especially- yourself.
I would strongly urge you two to live together (practice safe sex of course) and wait at least 2 years.
You will be amazed at how life changes between now and than and you’ll either realize that marriage still needs to wait or you’ll be more sure than ever.
You should be “more sure than ever” when you are planning a wedding, not unsure.
Best Wishes!
I would think… why don’t they wait a few more years. If its right its right, if you know in your heart that you will be together for the rest of your lives then getting married now or in 5 years isn’t going to make a difference. Wait a few more years grow up and mature a little bit then get married.
You asked for OPINIONS.
In my opinion its a bad idea.
You’re not the same person at 19 that you will be at 29, or 39 for that matter.
At 19 you don’t know what ‘real life’ is about. Your parents have paid the bills, bought your clothes, and kept food in the fridge.
Until you’ve lived on your own with a man and had to deal with real life, you dont know if you’re truly compatible. Stress, and responsibilities bring out the real you. You need to know that you and he can truly be partners and work through the trials that come with being an adult.
You have to have the same goals, work ethic, values and morals.
None of that has to do with religion, its about wanting the same thing and wanting to get there the same way, together.
I have a hard time wording things, but I’m sure someone will get what I’m saying.
I got married when I was 19 (4 months before I turned 20) and my husband was 23. We didn’t live together first. My 2 year anniversary was March 10th. We bought our first house in February. I’m just about done with college. We’re trying to have a baby. I’m glad I got married when I did.
When my grandparents got married, Granny was 17 and Papaw was 21. They’ve been married 44 years. She has cancer now and he loves her so much. It’s so sweet. They got married young and had a rough life, but they made it through everything very strong.
However, it is a case by case scenario. You may not be as mature, serious, or prepared for marriage as I was. I don’t know you, so I can’t say whether you should or shouldn’t. Do whatever is right for the two of you. However, if you’re unsure about it… maybe you shouldn’t get married yet.
Edit: All these people who are telling you to wait are saying “you won’t be the same person at 29 as you are now”…. Umm… well that’s part of life. People change. You could wait till you’re 30 to get married, but you’ll be a “different person” by the time you’re 45, 50, 70, etc. If your marriage is strong, you will be able to change together.
I’m 19 my hubby is 20 we got married when I was 18 and he was 19. Go for it!
My opinion is you are both SO YOUNG. Move in together and experience life- honestly turning 21 changes people- some good, some bad- go through the next few years together with promise rings to each other… divorces are very expensive if you guys change your mind after getting married- one of my best friends got married at 20- hubby turned 21, cheated and she is in a messy divorce. they were together 6 years through high school.
i think as long as the word teen is still a part of your age, your too young. wait till you have a few more years experience in what us adults like to call the “real world” THEN see if you want to get married
I think its too young. It can work and you could be blissfully married for the rest of your lives, but I’d like to see you live on your own and find a career and have him live on his own and find a career before you do it. Being on your own helps you figure out what you really need and want. Maybe it turns out he’s lazy and can’t keep a job or manage to pay bills on time. Maybe you discover you really want to work in a certain field that requires you to move and he doesn’t want to leave his family…a lot of important things can come to light once you fully enter adult world and leave school behind.
I didn’t get married until I was 31 and I look back at who I would have married when I was 19 and I shudder and thank God that I waited. Back then I was shy, insecure and probably would’ve settled on someone far less perfect for me than who I married. Maybe you’re really mature and you happen to have found the perfect guy. Even so, I’d just date for a couple more years and then make the decision to get engaged and married. What’s the rush? If he’s truly the right person, he’ll be the right person 2 years from now when you’re both possibly more financially secure and better ready to make that commitment.