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Letting GoLetting Goby Sue Dyson In our pursuit of excellence, it is just as vital not to overlook the lessons in the opposites of what we seek. Goal setting and positive affirmations, very important in our quest for success, encourages us to focus on the positives we desire in life, then create a strong "I am..." statement to bring about manifestation of our desires. This is all well and good. AND it would do us well to pay attention to the existence of the positive's opposites. Everything in nature has it's opposite. This is true also for living a joyous life. Focusing on manifesting joy does not guarantee immunity from any further sorrows. We know this. Creating joy in our lives WILL, however, help us handle the sorrows. It is within our sorrows, our challenges, where there is great potential for spiritual growth. To focus solely on the joys of our lives and deny the existence of our sorrows, we risk losing out on valuable lessons. Truth be known, the sorrows we experience remain with us until some meaning can be extracted from each lesson presented. Some of us have developed an ability to extract meanings from our challenges in an efficient manner. Others are just becoming aware of the richness present in our challenges. Still others will live their whole lives unaware of this. As Maya Angelou says, "When I knew better, I did better". As an example, I have a dear friend who is becoming increasingly aware of the source of his guilt feelings. He is beginning to realize HE is the source, being that our thoughts create our reality. Instead of focusing on all the wonderful, positive contributions he's made in life, up til now, he has often focused on where he could have been better, what he coulda/shoulda done differently. It would sound trite to simply advise him to focus on the positives of his life, and forget about that other stuff. He can't just let go. It's not in his nature -- yet. He's very attached to his ways of thinking. He's been doing it the same way for his whole adult life and it's not natural yet for him to just let go. It takes time for him. It takes examining his sorrows, his 'shoulda done differently's' to discover the lessons there. Once he's decided what the message is in these less than desirable experiences, he can begin to let it go. This is the point where you can accurately assess your decision making skills. Are you quick to decide? Do you continue to self-doubt your decisions? Once you've taken the lesson from the experience, this is the point you need to practice balance. Decide on the lesson, let go of the challenge. Try not to give it any further attention. You've decided what your lesson shall be, now stick with it. Vacillating -deciding, doubting, deciding, doubting, impresses on the Universe that you aren't quite committed to your desire. Your energy needs to be 100% behind your intended decision. Remember, if you remain fixated on your problem or challenge, you tend to attract more of the same kind of energy. Once you've extracted a lesson from a situation, let it go, release it. If it should rear it's not so pretty head again in the future and you find yourself rehashing old problems, simply tell yourself you've already dealt with that challenge. If there is another lesson to be had, you can trust the Universe to deliver the same message in a different way. How handy is that? As you continuously send the message back out that you are done with a particular challenge, episodes of self doubt will come fewer and farther apart. This opens you up for more joy in your life. A content, successful life is right around the corner.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Author's note: This article is never intended to take the place of professional help, should you require it. Please take responsibility for your well being and seek professional assistance if required. Article by Sue Dyson, BSN, publisher of SuccessfulMama Ezine, dedicated to empowering women in the creation and pursuit of their personal goals. Sign up for SuccessfulMama Ezine today at: ==> http://www.SuccessfulMama.com
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